10 Red Flags In Dating Relationships
By Terri Arnold, MS (Spicy Grandma), Thu Dec 8th

10 RED IN DATING RELATIONSHIPS

When starting a new relationship, many women (and men as well)tend to overlook some behaviors in their new partner that do notbode well for the future. Then, down the road, comes theexclamation ‘If I had only known...’. As a Psychotherapist whohas worked with mostly women and a few men in the field ofDomestic Violence, during counseling sessions we can alwaystrace back unpleasant and also dangerous character traits to thevery start of the relationship.

Here are some ‘Red Flags’ to watch out for in a new partner.

1)He makes decisions about where to go with little or no inputfrom you.

2)He belittles your opinion when the two of you are alone andmay call you names.

3)He makes disparaging remarks about you in front of others andmay talk about you as if you were not there.

4)He may be rough during love-making and make you engage in actsyou do not like.

5)He does not want to spend time with your friends or family andinsists you socialize with his people.

6)He will not acknowledge your areas of expertise and may putdown what you do in the workplace - ignore any of youraccomplishments.

7)He may openly flirt with other women and then accuse you ofbeing jealous when you object.

8)He gets angry and loses

his temper over trivialities. Staysangry for a long time and attempts to blame all arguments on you.

9)May hit walls when angry.

10)One of the main factors is that he comes on very strong inthe beginning of your relationship - sweeps you off your feet -and wants an exclusive relationship too quickly. Many women feelflattered at the intensity of the man’s seeming need for animmediate connection and consequently overlook theinappropriateness of it.

*This should not be confused with ‘love at first sight’ whereone or both parties feel an instant connection - without any ofthe aforementioned behaviors.*

There are many other factors that could be listed - but if theman in your life begins displaying the above qualities - realizeit will not get better, only worse. He will likely be unwillingto discuss his emotions openly and feel that women are theinferior sex.

If this describes your man, run - do not walk - out of his life.The next step will likely be physical abuse.

About the author:Terri Arnold, MS (Spicy Grandma) has been a Psychotherapist forover twenty years. She has owned and operated a brick and mortardating service and has also counseled female victims of domesticviolence, helping them to regain their self esteem and leadhappy and productive lives. She now invites you to visit herfriendly, interactive and informative 50+ dating community athttp://www.spicy-senior-singles.com.